No you read that right... they really do MISS understanding if we don't use the right words, tools, and information that they are familiar with. It is very, very important to speak their language. Words are so powerful and mean so many different things to different people.
Did you know that the Inuit people have over 100 words for snow? Each ones means something a bit different about that fluffy, white stuff we call snow here in Texas. Try and wrap your head around that... does what we say to our children mean what we really think it does?
Here's a video of me blabbing on about our perceptions on communication. The response we get is the meaning of our communication... NOT what we think our words mean. Just because you said "nice pants" doesn't mean she heard "let's dance." Speak well my friends!