Judgemental or Descriptive Feedback - Self-Worth Weapon or Tool?

Self-worth.  It's not something we usually think a 3 year old would have.  I mean, come one, they're just little kids, right?

Wrong... oh so wrong.  Psychological research shows that what the child learns, around 3 to 4 years of age, HUGELY impacts their self-worth and esteem... for the rest of their lives.


Oh and before you run off saying "I don't have kids!"... stick around.  There's a deeper point

...I just had to upgrade this post to a full blown one over at the main blog...  go check it out:

http://richardstep.com/self-help/judge-or-describe-your-self-worth-is-at-stake/

Parents Don't Listen and Kids Miss Understanding

No you read that right... they really do MISS understanding if we don't use the right words, tools, and information that they are familiar with.  It is very, very important to speak their language.  Words are so powerful and mean so many different things to different people.

Did you know that the Inuit people have over 100 words for snow?  Each ones means something a bit different about that fluffy, white stuff we call snow here in Texas.  Try and wrap your head around that... does what we say to our children mean what we really think it does?

Here's a video of me blabbing on about our perceptions on communication. The response we get is the meaning of our communication... NOT what we think our words mean. Just because you said "nice pants" doesn't mean she heard "let's dance." Speak well my friends!